Saturday, January 29, 2011
How to Keep Safe on Facebook - wikiHow
How to Keep Safe on Facebook - wikiHow
How to Keep Safe on Facebook
These steps can help you seperate the good people from the bad ones.
1)Set the security settings on your profile to "Only my friends." By doing this, you will be able to have control who has access to your information and pictures. For certain pictures, you can also select certain friends that you do or do not want them to see.
2)Be sure to set your privacy settings.Always monitor pictures that other people put of you and tag you on. You can see the tagged pictures of you by going to your profile and under your profile picture it should say "Photos of You" and the number of tagged pictures. Click on that, and look through the pictures. You should be able to untag any unappealing photos of you, but people still have the ability to see it. Don't hesitate for a second to "untag" yourself from pictures that you do not approve of. Simply click "remove tag" next to the name in the list of people in the picture. Also if you think that the particular picture could put you in a compromising situation, consult whoever put it up and ask him or her to remove it immediately. If they are your so called pals they should comply with your request.
3)Do not post pictures of yourself under the influence of any type of substance. This refers to pictures such as: Dancing-on-the-bar pictures or candid shots of the last time you got hammered with your pals on happy hour. Don't be caught with drugs, especially if you're underage because anyone can just print out the picture and show it to your parents or principal.
4Be cautious of the statuses, photos, videos, etc. you post if your coworkers, colleagues, or even your boss is friends with you. If possible, avoid sending out or accepting friend requests from
those who know you from work, especially your boss. Granting them full access to view your personal life will only have negative effects on your job.
5)Avoid putting your phone number, mailing address, children's or pet's names in your profile. People often use words such as pet's names or numbers as passwords, so it is not recommended to publish them on-line.
6)Never post information regarding an upcoming vacation or trip as your status. Doing so is just asking for your house to be robbed. If you must post photos and every detail of your two-week trip to France, do so after you return home, not before or during your vacation.
7)Change your password every so often. Don't make your password something obvious such as your birthday or mothers maiden name. Try to have at least one capital letter, one lowercase letter, two numbers, and a symbol. The longer and more complicated the password, the safer you are from getting your account hacked. Always remember to log out after you're finished with Facebook, especially on a shared computer.
8Don't confuse Facebook with an on-line dating site. The purpose of Facebook is to connect you with people you know. Making you profile public means you're sharing your information with everyone, even though you don't know them, a risk that you wouldn't want to take.
9)Be careful who you friend. Don't friend anyone out of your state/country unless you know them pretty well. Only friend people you know. You can add mutual friends that you don't know if you want to, though not recommended. Only friend people that you at least know their favorite color, siblings name, pets name, or something like that. Make sure they are the correct person by looking through their pictures. If they are not familiar, then remove them as a friend by getting to your friend list. Block anyone that seems to threaten or harass you.
How to Keep Safe on Facebook
These steps can help you seperate the good people from the bad ones.
1)Set the security settings on your profile to "Only my friends." By doing this, you will be able to have control who has access to your information and pictures. For certain pictures, you can also select certain friends that you do or do not want them to see.
2)Be sure to set your privacy settings.Always monitor pictures that other people put of you and tag you on. You can see the tagged pictures of you by going to your profile and under your profile picture it should say "Photos of You" and the number of tagged pictures. Click on that, and look through the pictures. You should be able to untag any unappealing photos of you, but people still have the ability to see it. Don't hesitate for a second to "untag" yourself from pictures that you do not approve of. Simply click "remove tag" next to the name in the list of people in the picture. Also if you think that the particular picture could put you in a compromising situation, consult whoever put it up and ask him or her to remove it immediately. If they are your so called pals they should comply with your request.
3)Do not post pictures of yourself under the influence of any type of substance. This refers to pictures such as: Dancing-on-the-bar pictures or candid shots of the last time you got hammered with your pals on happy hour. Don't be caught with drugs, especially if you're underage because anyone can just print out the picture and show it to your parents or principal.
4Be cautious of the statuses, photos, videos, etc. you post if your coworkers, colleagues, or even your boss is friends with you. If possible, avoid sending out or accepting friend requests from
those who know you from work, especially your boss. Granting them full access to view your personal life will only have negative effects on your job.
5)Avoid putting your phone number, mailing address, children's or pet's names in your profile. People often use words such as pet's names or numbers as passwords, so it is not recommended to publish them on-line.
6)Never post information regarding an upcoming vacation or trip as your status. Doing so is just asking for your house to be robbed. If you must post photos and every detail of your two-week trip to France, do so after you return home, not before or during your vacation.
7)Change your password every so often. Don't make your password something obvious such as your birthday or mothers maiden name. Try to have at least one capital letter, one lowercase letter, two numbers, and a symbol. The longer and more complicated the password, the safer you are from getting your account hacked. Always remember to log out after you're finished with Facebook, especially on a shared computer.
8Don't confuse Facebook with an on-line dating site. The purpose of Facebook is to connect you with people you know. Making you profile public means you're sharing your information with everyone, even though you don't know them, a risk that you wouldn't want to take.
9)Be careful who you friend. Don't friend anyone out of your state/country unless you know them pretty well. Only friend people you know. You can add mutual friends that you don't know if you want to, though not recommended. Only friend people that you at least know their favorite color, siblings name, pets name, or something like that. Make sure they are the correct person by looking through their pictures. If they are not familiar, then remove them as a friend by getting to your friend list. Block anyone that seems to threaten or harass you.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
How to Attract Positive People Into Your Life ~ Some Great Tips on Law of Attraction
Author: Leon
Have you heard of the word called “aura”? We all have it! It’s our life energy that glows outward from within us. At any time, each of us is always transmitting positive or negative energy. This energy is picked up by others and respond likewise. This theory is known as the law of attraction.
When you’re transmitting positive aura, you’re attracting like-minded positive people. When positive people come together, they tend to have positive desires, take positive actions and produce positive results. Positive people encourage and support one another.
Negative people, on the other hand, will do just the opposite. They tend to have negative thinking, take negative actions and produce negative results. Negative people will always tell you that you can’t achieve your goals, and that they’re too hard or unreachable.
So, how do you know if you’re having a positive or negative aura?
The answer is simple. If your thoughts are constantly bombarded by negative phrases such as “I can’t do it”, “Life’s suck!”, “I can’t succeed”, etc. then you’re attracting negativity and will end up having negative aura.
Believe it or not, the universe and people around you will respond to your aura. If you have negative aura, you’ll attract negative people. On the other hand, if you have positive aura, you’ll attract positive people.
If you find yourself focusing on negative things, it’s time to make a change. Maybe your parents were role models of criticism instead of encouragement, or maybe you’ve always surrounded yourself with negative friends. Whatever the reason, there’s no use to dwell on it, learn from it and treat it as your past.
Make an effort to associate with positive people.
Here are some tips to help you attract positive people into your life:
1. Look for positive qualities in other people. All of us have good as well as bad qualities. Focus more of your attention on positive qualities in others even though it’s far easier to see someone’s faults before seeing their goodness. So start challenging yourself today to look only for a person’s good qualities.
2. Be conscious of your own good qualities and use them. Always make effort to project your positive qualities to others. Doing so can help boost your self-esteem and influence others to respond with their positive qualities as well.
3. Refrain from judging. When you judge others, you tend to produce negative energy and this will attract more of the same back to you. Again, always give more attention to the goodness in others.
4. Value others’ opinions. Positive energy is open-minded. Listen to all points of view and do your best to understand them, regardless of how different from your own they are.
5. Revel in the success and happiness of others. Positive people are pleased and excited when they see others’ success. They will pick up on the successful traits and use them as a motivator. On the other hand, negative energy is jealous of others’ success and happiness.
6. Set goals and have dreams in your life. Each day, do the things that will move you closer to your goals. Embrace your joy every step of the way as you achieve your goals.
Like it or not, we all have negative thoughts and emotions, don’t be afraid to admit it as we’re all human and it’s a human nature to have negative thoughts and emotions. The key is not to dwell on them.
Follow and use the tips above and become a positive person today, it will help you attract more positive people into your life. The more positive people you associate with, the more joy and fulfillment you’ll feel in your life.
Here is a great resource you should check it out....
"The 11 Forgotten Laws That Make The Law of Attraction An Unbreakable Force”
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Author: Becca Kline
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6 Step Process for Breaking Free From Emotional Traps and Addictions
Author: Becca Kline
Addiction. That's a heavy word, but I do want to devote a short article to the subject because I think it is worth a quick look. When I say addiction, I don't just mean traditional addiction to chemical substances like alcohol or other mind altering drugs. Research has found that some of the most addictive and indeed most powerful substances on the planet are, in fact, produced by our own bodies – in our brains. They are the chemicals that govern our emotions and our emotional reactions to different stimuli. I'm talking about emotional addictions.
You've probably heard of endorphins, which are the "feel good" peptides. This was a buzzword that was all the rage in the 80s when the fitness craze first started. Endorphins are the body's natural pain killer and can have an opiate effect on us, inducing a feeling of "well-being". This hype led to the terminology "runner's high", which refers to that great feeling people can achieve when they repeatedly do strenuous exercise.
Now, that's all very well but you may be asking what it has to do with the context of this article. And the answer is this: just as you can become addicted to "fitness" because it gives you that "lift" that you associate with the release of endorphins, you can, in fact, become addicted to ANY chemical release in your body that is a hormonal reaction to stimuli - whether it's associated with a "positive" emotion or a "negative" emotion. And when I say "addicted", I really do mean addicted, physically. Those natural chemicals that are produced in your glands will lock onto the cells of your body and alter their performance and structure in the same way that any synthetic drug does.
The significance of this fact is simply that you can become addicted to a negative thought cycle or pattern of behavior and seek to repeat thoughts and actions that will cause a release of those chemicals in your brain – even if it doesn't feel "good". The cells of your body will crave the chemicals and you will feel compelled to induce a peptide release, which will give your body its "fix". This is why people can become entrenched in negative thought cycles which can be associated with feelings of "victim-hood", "shame", "guilt", "blame", "powerlessness", "overwhelmed-ness" or any other state.
Have you ever known someone who was always the "victim"? In the little things in life as well as the big, they were always being done some injustice? And they have a wealth of stories in their repertoire of instances where life was unfair? That's a pretty easy example and you can probably think of other, better examples – like someone who feels inferior no matter what, or someone who is always jilted by the opposite sex. From the outside looking in, it seems easy to see that their attitude is the foundation for their experience and they therefore seem almost driven to find ways of repeating and reaffirming those experiences.
I write all of this only to say that if you feel you are caught in a negative thought cycle or pattern, be it guilt, blame, anger or whatever else, you may be dealing with a chemical issue as well as an emotional one. Take stock of where you are and ask yourself if you might be caught in a chronic pattern, which is not serving you. If you find that you are repeatedly experiencing strong, unpleasant emotions or spiraling thought cycles over which you have little or no control, there is a good chance that you are dealing with an emotional addiction. The rule of thumb is, if you can't control it, you are addicted to it.
The good news is that you CAN break free from any negative pattern or cycle that has you entrenched. It will take some work, but it is definitely worth it! It is the only path to true freedom and empowerment. Recognition and ownership (taking personal responsibility for it) is the first and hardest step. Here is a list of things that I have found are crucial steps for breaking free of patterns. These are elements I have discovered based on personal experience:
1. STOP making excuses. As justified as you may be for allowing yourself to give place to blame, anger or whatever other emotion you are trying to break free from, you must take personal responsibility for your own reaction. When you find yourself saying, "I don't want to give in to anger (for example), BUT...", stop yourself. Don't allow yourself to make it ok on this occasion because this time it really is justified. Justified or not, giving in is giving your power away. Instead say, "That person or circumstance may be idiotic but thankfully I am bigger than that and I am calling my own shots." Get your power back.
2. FIND a new thought or belief that can replace the old, disempowering belief. You may need to introspect or meditate on this one for a time before you find something that will work. It needs to be something that will ring true for you. If you look closely at the core belief behind the negative emotion you are trying to release, there will generally be a fear attached to it. For example, if you are caught in a cycle of anger and rage, investigate the scenarios that call that anger forth in you and ask yourself what fear lies beneath the anger. It may be a fear of being abandoned or of feeling inferior. If you are caught in a victimhood cycle, it may be that you are afraid of being powerless and unable to take care of yourself or get what you need. Only you can know, but it will take some soul-searching to get behind it. Once you feel you have pinpointed the fear, talk yourself through it and establish a new belief based on the opposite premise. For example, if you suffer from feelings of inferiority, you can talk yourself through a new belief: "The truth is, others can only make me feel inferior if I allow myself to feel inferior, but in reality there is no such thing. I am neither inferior nor superior to anyone; nor is anyone inferior or superior to me. We all have good and bad in us; strengths and weaknesses. Right now I choose to focus on my strengths." Make up a short affirmation that summarizes the new thought. For example, "We ALL have strengths and weaknesses but I choose to focus on my strengths." Repeat this new affirmation to yourself many times a day. I have a list of affirmations that I made up and I say them ALL THE TIME. I've said them so often that they practically run on automatic pilot in my brain now - almost like a song you can't stop singing over and over.
3. AS SOON AS you realize you are spiraling down that familiar but unwanted path - and in the beginning that may not be until and hour or even a day later - STOP and force yourself to replace the old, familiar thought pattern with your new belief. Repeat it to yourself over and over. I can tell you that in the beginning, this will cause an inner dialogue of struggle because your brain will keep going back to the old thought pattern and tell you that the new belief is untrue based on your past experience. You won't be able to help it because it is a deeply entrenched habit. Keep going back to the new belief. Do it again and again, every time you catch yourself engaging in the old thought pattern. It may seem like a tennis match in the beginning and you may feel like you're going a bit mad, having this internal argument with yourself. Don't give in. Just keep doing it, no matter what. You will simply have to persevere and "willpower" your way through this. That's how breaking free of any addiction is. It's worth it!
4. DISTRACT yourself if you find the above process (internal argument) going on for too long or you are unable to let go. Put on your favorite music or movie or go to a place you love to be and just GET YOUR MIND OFF OF IT. The worst thing you can do is to continue in the negative thought cycle. So if you can't seem to turn the locomotion of thought around, just think about something else - something good or funny, something that takes your mind off of it.
5. DO NOT beat yourself up for falling into the old pattern. This will only lead to further negative downward spiral. It's ok that you can't let go of the old pattern within 2 minutes, 2 days, weeks, months or whatever. When you have a setback, as soon as you become conscious of what's going on, STOP the negative thought cycle and set your intention to getting back on track. Just let it go
6. CELEBRATE when you feel you are making progress - no matter how small the progress! Give yourself some sort of reward for your success. In the beginning, it may be that you reward yourself simply for being able to distract yourself and let the thoughts go. That's fine. In the beginning, that IS progress! Find a way to recognize and acknowledge every little improvement because that is your proof that you CAN do it and it will set you up for going further next time. It is a matter of convincing yourself that the new belief IS true. It will fuel the flames of self-improvement and self-empowerment as you prove to yourself that you can get your power back and be deliberate and intentional in the way you live your life!
I will warn you that if you are caught in a negative pattern of behavior that is a duo - that is, with someone in particular where you play your part and the other plays his (or hers) - it will require extra effort to break yourself free because the other party most likely has his own addiction going on. He will therefore try very hard to keep you in your pattern so you can continue to give each other your "fix". When you take stock of your emotional repertoire to pinpoint negative emotional addictions, try to ascertain at the same time if there is a co-dependent relationship going on. If so, prepare yourself for the fact that the other will fight to keep you feeding the addiction. Whenever the unhealthy interaction between you kicks off, you will need to find a way to get out so that you can centre yourself and get on track.
Try to remember that "fixing the other guy's addiction" is NOT your responsibility, it's HIS. It won't really serve you to try and tell him to sort out his addiction or to try and fix both yours and his at the same time. Trying to fix someone else's experience can only end in frustration and tears. Only he can choose to get out of any emotional trap that he may have and he will have to come to his own realization and conclusion about that. Your job is YOU and your own self-empowerment. The best that you can offer anyone else is your own example of being empowered and living deliberately. When they see it, they will want some for themselves!
I hope you have found this article useful. Please leave a comment on my blog at http://www.change-your-paradigm.com/ to let me know if this has helped or make a suggestion about something you want me to write about. For now, I wish you peace and joy.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/addictions-articles/6-step-process-for-breaking-free-from-emotional-traps-and-addictions-4053116.html
About the Author
Becca Kline is a freelance writer, blogger and platinum level expert author. Contributing to several niches including autism spectrum, parenting, personal development, personal empowerment and spiritual growth, her primary intention is to inspire others to grow beyond their current paradigm and reach their highest potential, one step at a time.
Becca's professional background spans 3 countries (and languages) and includes over 20 years in finance, operations and marketing with several large international companies. Skilled in personnel management, motivation, training and process improvement, Becca has developed and run a number of training programs for employees on a variety of topics and processes.
Privately, Becca is raising two magnificent sons with Asperger's Syndrome (autism spectrum disorders). Putting her knowledge and skills in personal motivation to use, she has developed unique and powerful techniques and processes for unlocking the potential of these extraordinary individuals.
Personal Development for An Impressive Personality
Author: Stephen Campbell
In order to develop a lively personality, an important aspect is attractiveness and the most important would be quality that is known as inner charisma or charm. Charm is the personality that comes from within. This is most often known as 'Personal Magnetism' and what the movie makers and big companies look for is personal magnetism or the inner charm. This is not a defined property but is far more imperative than physical beauty. But when both the personalities are combined the blend is irresistible. Inner
Charm can be developed in any individual, just like how you learn everything. Anyhow, it requires a lot of self-discipline and constant study. Some of the characteristics that we can adopt from great people are friendliness, interest in people, courteousness, kindness towards all, self confidence and vitality. There are also a few most important requirement that are required to develop a impressive attitude like maintaining a good health, being king to everyone, good character, honesty in all ways, not being selfish, being obedient to principles and ideals, being clean from both body and mind, being truth, being religious, being loyal and having good habits. Involving these characteristics in you would help you develop an impressive personality.
Personal development
Personality is the psychological behavior that affects the way of living and is handled by the way we interact with people around us and the situation that are related with them. We often hear people say that 'he has a hot tempered personality' or 'he has a cool personality'. Both of the personalities describe the person's communication with people around and the handling power of various situations. The personality for any normal person is decided on three important factors that are the situations a person handle, inheritance of the genes and the environment.
So, talking about inheritance of genes means that the genes that we inherit from our parents and that play a major role in one's personality development. The environment is also important as the personality is developed according to the culture and the living styles. The third main factor for its development is the situations we handle. Regardless of the other two factors for its development, the way we handle situations in a developed or a well educated manner counts a lot.
In-Home Personality Training
Anyone would agree with the point that staying fit is the most important aspect of having an impressive personality. After all, staying fit also has a number of benefits. There are various ways to stay fit and if you have a gym near your dwelling, then you just have to plan out the time. You can also join a gym or can even call the trainer for in-house personal training. An in-house personal training is generally carried out by people who cannot manage their daily schedule for exercise and visit the gym or physical training instructor. The other options could be that you attend a dance class for staying fit and in shape. Staying in shape would also be a part of personal development.
Article Source: http://www.articlesbase.com/self-help-articles/personal-development-for-an-impressive-personality-246749.html
About the Author
Stephen C Campbell is a Master NLP Practitioner, personal coach who runs Self Development programs and a free membership site. http://www.you-can-be.com/members
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How to Make Pencils
A pencil can be any writing instrument that uses solid pigment as opposed to a pen which uses a liquid medium for marking. The word pencil comes from the Latin term pencillus meaning "little tail" which was originally used to describe any fine, pointed brush. The modern pencil was first made in 1795 and the manufacturing process remains basically the same today. The following steps will assist you making your own pencils.
Difficulty: Moderate
Instructions
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Use a fairly soft wood so the pencil can be easily sharpened. The most popular pencil wood comes from the cedar trees in northern California, especially trees that are 150 to 200 years old.
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Cut a solid block of wood into slats that are half the thickness of the pencils to be made. Stain the slats and cut grooves to hold the leads on 1 side.
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Prepare the "leads." Fine graphite and clay is mixed together and shaped into long thin sticks, which are then fired in a kiln. Elemental lead has not actually been used in pencils since 1564 when pure graphite deposits were discovered in England.
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Place the prepared leads into the grooves, place a second identical slat on top of the first and bond the 2 halves together. Mill the resulting "pencil sandwich" into the desired shape and separate the individual pencils.
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Paint the pencil with a non-poisonous lacquer. Crimp a ferrule to hold the eraser on 1 end and crimp the eraser into the ferrule.
